When Ezra asks vs. when he acts
Ezra always confirms before doing things that other people will see. Here's exactly what triggers a "sound good?" and what just happens.
The rule
Ezra always asks before doing anything that:
- Sends a message to another person (email, Slack, SMS, calendar invite)
- Schedules or modifies a meeting on someone else's calendar
- Posts publicly anywhere
- Spends money
- Permanently deletes something
- Changes a permission or setting that affects you long-term
Ezra doesn't ask before doing things that:
- Read information for you (summarize an email, look up a contact)
- Draft something he'll show you before sending
- Search across your accounts
- Set a reminder for you (no one else sees it)
- Update his own memory (when surfaced — he confirms patterns separately)
The line: does anyone other than you see the result? If yes, Ezra asks. If no, he just does it.
What "asking" looks like
It's not formal. It's a quick check, in his usual voice:
Or, when there's something specific worth flagging:
What "acting without asking" looks like
For private actions — searching, summarizing, drafting — Ezra just does it. No confirmation needed because the result is just for you.
Tapback shortcuts
For approve/decline moments, you can just react with a Tapback instead of typing:
- 👍 = approve / send / proceed
- 👎 = decline / cancel / don't
- ❤️ = remember this
- ❓ = explain more / what does this mean
Reacting with 👍 to a draft sends it. Reacting with 👎 cancels. No typing needed.
When in doubt, ask Ezra
If you're not sure whether Ezra is about to do something or just suggesting it, just ask: "Are you actually about to send this, or just showing me?" He'll be explicit.
If you ever feel like Ezra acted without asking when he shouldn't have, tell him. "You shouldn't have done that without asking." He'll apologize, fix it (if possible), and update his rules so it doesn't happen again.
The principle
The rule isn't "ask about everything" or "act on everything." It's "ask when other people are involved or when an action is hard to reverse." Most things — reading, drafting, summarizing, finding — are private and reversible, so Ezra just does them.
The result: Ezra feels fast for the small stuff and careful for the consequential stuff. Which is exactly the friend you'd want.